Contributed by “R” in Maryland (#34)

This situation has not only affected me mental, financially, but most of all for the rest of my life. Here is my story… In March of 2006 I met this guy through a dating site and we talked on the phone for a week before meeting each other. When we finally met, we were inseparable. We did everything together, he bought me any and everything I wanted, he treated me like a queen.

Granted he did have a criminal past, but I didn’t hold that against him. No one is perfect. July 2006 he proposed to me, I didn’t even ask for the proposal. It was a huge surprise, but I did say yes. In February 2007, we bought a house together and was planning for our wedding to be held in September 2008. Well, when we bought our house; my parents were going through a divorce and my mom moved in with us.

In April 2008, my mom received a phone call from one of her part time job supervisors. He asked my mom did he know someone by the name of (he asked for my fiancé) and my mom said yes. So the supervisor goes on to tell my mom my fiancé has been stealing money out of my mom’s part time jobs bank account. My mom was outraged, I was in a state of shock, embarrassed, and hurt. That day my mom kicked my fiancé out of our house.

The next week a police detective showed up at my door looking for my fiancé for stealing money and equipment from his previous 3 jobs. After talking with the police detective my now ex-fiancé not only lied to me about owning his own trucking company, he lied about his criminal record, he has been stealing from these companies for the past year, he lied to me about his whole life! I didn’t see not one clue from his lies. He was doing everything right. He went to work, paid the bills, didn’t go out with friends or his family at all. From his actions and lies he is now in prison.

As for me I’m 23 now, my house is now in foreclosure and I had to file bankruptcy because we not only had a house together we had a truck, loans, and money lost from paying for the wedding that never happen. There is a whole lot more to this story, but it would just be to long. I not only suffer from having any type of relationship with a guy, cause I fear they will hurt me just like my ex-fiancé did, but I sometimes blame myself for this. Why did this happen to me? I was never the type to let a man get that close to me, and I let that all go away when I met him. Never again will I let that happen. Men are jerks! Ladies don’t let your guard down even if you find prince charming.